I know it seems a bit dramatic of me to say a product has saved my life, but I am pretty sure it has or the very least my sanity. I know it’s been radio silence her and for that I apologize, I have been thinking about my blog and all of you everyday, I have, but I seem to be a little inept at this whole mom, blogger and business woman thing. How the heck do all these other women make it look so darn easy? I have been extremely baffled, but had a light bulb moment when I realized that all the other mommy’s that are actually getting things done have newborns that sleep, because that’s what newborns are supposed to do just sleep a whole lot. Well, not my baby, nope, my baby spends a lot of time delighting me with her huge gummy smile, coo’s and Shirley Temple dimple that I can’t stop kissing, but that doesn’t make for a productive day at the ‘office’. I need my baby to sleep not just so I can get work done, oh, no, I need her to sleep so she can do things like grow and flourish.
I am writing this as almost a public service announcement for those mommy’s that are struggling with either a baby that won’t sleep, insists on being held and cries bloody murder if you even attempt to put them down, or needs their hands to do things like brush their teethe or whatever it is they use to use their arms and hands for prior to holding baby for 24 hours straight. There are a lot of wraps, carriers, slings and such on the market (and I will discuss a sling I have been using in another post) but the Solly Wrap is Elle’s favorite and that’s key (coincidentally the inventor of the Solly wrap is also named Elle). This is the only place my baby will take a nap! I have tried everything —a swing, a co-sleeper in the crib, the crib with a vibrating paddle under it, putting the crib mattress on a incline, swaddling, unswadddling, white noise, black out everything, car seat, stroller you name it but she stays wide awake, her doe eyes wide as saucers, but the minute I put her in the Solly wrap it’s a matter of seconds before she falls asleep. So why have I been fighting it if I know this is where she will sleep? I was worried that she wasn’t getting a deep enough sleep or long enough sleep and finally I just had to concede that as long as she was getting some kind of sleep it was better than no sleep. This is how I was finally able to write this here post and try to reinsert myself into the world at large. Baby steps. You might ask why the Solly wrap over the Moby wrap? For one it is easier to figure out how to tie (for me anyway) and it is lighter, much lighter. I seem to be running hot ever since Elle came to town so wearing a hot wrap for an extended period of time is not going to work for me (a lot of people love this wrap though). Less fabric also means less bulk and trust me after 9 months of being bulky you want to avoid that. How long does she sleep in the wrap? Not long, but I can get a good 30 minutes in, sometimes 45 but it’s better than zero minutes. It doesn’t give me a ton of time to get things done, but I work as much as I can within those windows, I have been able to keep up with my shop, but my beloved blog has been sorely neglected. Socializing? Nope, haven’t done that yet, but I hope to soon (I have serious cabin fever), working out? I have done a bit of walking but nothing that is going to get me six pack abs (I plan on it), I have a gift certificate for a mani + pedi that I got for Christmas that I am dying to use (let’s not even discuss the state of my paws) but I have not worked up the courage to leave my baby with anyone and I absolutely would not baby wear her into the nail salon.
So this my friends is where I am at singing the praises of a baby wrap, spending inordinate amounts of time trying to get my daughter to sleep and then trying to find time to work, neglecting a lot of things (my poor husband has been living with a zombie) and hoping that I will soon find a way to navigate these choppy waters of new motherhood and find a balance. Oh, yes I also spend a lot of time mooning over my babe, she is just the best little non-sleeping being I have ever met.
P.S. For those that left kind comments about the photo it’s from the Solly Wrap site, it’s not me and my bub, although I wish I looked this good, I look like a zombie, a happy zombie, but a zombie.
Miss Tristan B. is the proprietress of Besotted Brand and the writer of this delightful blog. She recently re-located to sunny Seattle with her handsome husband and two pups, they just welcomed to the world a baby girl. Her lofty goal here is to make this a creative resource repository and to inspire you to fall truly, madly, deeply in love with your life.