Bloom where you are planted…

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I thought I’d pop in and give you a quick update and perhaps a little pep talk on this whole ‘focus’ journey, if you too are in the same boat and wondering if change is possible. Firstly, it’s been f’in! hard (and you know I don’t like to swear!)  I have successfully trimmed a bunch of ‘fat’. It seems I had more interests that I pursued in some form (even if it was just research), more than I would ever know what to do with–ever. An example would be hair bows; they are inordinately expensive for something that your toddler will inevitably pull out of their hair and lose within minutes. I decided one day I’d make my own, I researched for hours, got my supplies and then got down to business. I made 2. I lost hours of my life, literally hours that I can’t retrieve ever again. I now am asking myself before I try something, if the effort to pursue something is worth my time (for me time is money, especially with such a shortage of it). It would have in essence been a lot more cost effective for me to order a few sets of bows than waste those hours. Lesson learned.  I decided that since I have limited time, if I did pursue a hobby (that seems laughable), but if I did, it would need to enhance my life both personally and professionally, since I can’t afford for those to be too separate and honestly I don’t need them to be too disparate. I asked myself what I would regret in 10 years if I didn’t do it and didn’t try to master (and that is a goal of mine to obtain mastery) and it was shockingly, hold on to your seats, not lettering. I loved it and enjoyed myself immensely discovering and exploring technique, but I have no desire to be a lettering artist professionally and the more I practiced I got farther away from the wonky hand I like. I will now admire from afar, as I actually have been doing for quite some time now, but being able to let that go feels very freeing. When I asked myself what I would regret the most if I didn’t do it, it would be documenting my life and it’s ‘wild imaginings’ (as Michelle put it) via photography and writing. I was on cloud 9 when Michelle and I wrote our novel, I felt like I was on creative steroids, it’s one of my most proudest personal achievements. I want to make more time in my life to write, not for the pursuit of anything but for the sheer pleasure it gives me. If I am making toddler hair bows, or whatever shiny thing I see that day I can’t spend time getting better at something that would truly enhance my life. These are all very huge lessons for me! The photography, I am a little embarrassed to say this, I wasn’t shooting, because I was bemoaning what I didn’t have and what I thought I needed to make the shots that I was envisioning. I was seeing all this great work and I wanted my images to look like that but I have a totally different environment and instead of embracing it, exploring it and experimenting with it, I was avoiding it. Completely. I decided to just shoot and see what happened. You know what? It’s not like what I had wanted, it’s polar opposite in fact, but it’s not half bad, just different, and I am enjoying the process and starting to feel like maybe, just maybe I could make it something. Michelle, that sage woman said, ‘bloom where you are planted.’ I guess I never really realized what that meant until now.

The business part we are discussing, dissecting, dreaming, etc. we are getting closer and closer to something that feels more authentic to us, makes sense and has lots of room for growth. We are really trying to cut out whatever doesn’t make sense and does not enhance where we are trying to go. We discovered so much about ourselves in such a short period of time. Not all of it has been great, but Michelle and I are eternal optimists and if we get knocked down, even if we knock ourselves down, we are pretty darn good about brushing off our hands and getting back up again. We shall continue to keep you posted!

What about you?  I know a lot of you have felt like you are in the same situation with multiple interests and not a ton of real success. Have you started to take action as well?  Anything working out for you? Feeling worse than before you started focusing? I can raise my hand on that one…

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This is for everyone that is multi-passionate that wants to stay that way!

This book keeps on getting recommended as a life changer, I have a request in at the library for it

I am taking this class, a photo journalistic approach to photographing family

If you are an Austin Kleon fan you’ll love this interview

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henri matisse quote via besotted blog

It’s been a while since we did a little round up of random things we are doing, liking etc. so how about right now? Sounds good to me!

Michelle sent me the above quote and I loved it! Even though Mssr. Matisse felt this way it did not stop him from his passion of painting!

I am really loving this drugstore mascara. You can either wear it natural or bring on the glam and I haven’t had trouble with racoon eyes-Win!

I haven’t had any success with adding new summer frocks to my closet, but a couple ladies I follow have suggested these great finds 1 | 2 | 3. I am super tempted to order the Amazon dress, I would never consider Amazon for clothes, have you?

A few of you suggested some books to help focus and I thought I would share them here 1 | 2 | 3 | 4

A client of ours read the focus post and said that meditation helped her hone in on her dream and sent me this link.

I have been taking an Instagram class, it’s not a social media outlet I feel I really understand and certainly not one I truly considered for our business. Did you know that if you find an account you like and start going through their feed and liking a bunch of photos that may be considered weird and stalkerish?  Me neither!  I have done it on many an occasion.

We have a boatload of unclaimed prizes from our brush lettering week, if you played please check to see if you won. We will give those winners until Friday, July 22, 2016 to claim prizes and if they don’t we will give it to ONE winner!

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Yan Palmer Honest Photographer

Yan Palmer honest photographer via besotted blog

I have been in a bit of a funk lately, so much on my plate and not a ton of time to get it all done and sometimes not even time to make a dent in anything. For my type A personality (that is wound a little too tightly), this has been a very difficult realization. Speaking of realization, I am realizing that this is my life right now and besides my beautiful little family and my friends, it’s not exactly how I had envisioned it. Part of this funk has been because of a heavy dose of comparison a.k.a the thief of joy. In the last six months I found out randomly that two of my former clients had become multi-millionaires-MULTI and that two of my former business partners have achieved that as well although one married into it so I am not counting that, too much, (I jest). My former assistant has surpassed me professionally and has gone above and beyond anything I could have dreamed of. What have all these people done that I have not? They FOCUSED. I am not a focuser I am a explorer, I am insatiably curious, I am a dabbler and I am infinitely interested in uhm, what seems like EVERYTHING. Michelle and I have made a concentrated effort lately on what we call the ‘F’ word (focus). It has not been easy, but guess what? When we have focused we have gotten a ton of ‘s’ done. Very gratifying for someone that likes to check things off her list! I’d love to hear from anyone that went from being freewheelin’ to focused and if that dramatically changed their lives or if you know of someone that did?  So, what does this have to do with Yan Palmer?Read More

Amor Vincit Omnia

amor vincit omnia via besotted blog

The U.S. has had a heavy heart with multiple senseless tragedies transpiring from Orlando this week. We wanted to add our condolences. It is unfathomable to lose a loved one, it makes it even worse to lose someone you love in an incomprehensible way. It is always our hope that love will carry us all through whatever hardships we are having, that love will give us the strength and hope to buoy us through even the darkest of times. Today hold those dear to you a little closer and let those you love know how much you do.

Sewing Happiness by Sanae Ishida book winner!

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We are so happy to announce the winner of Sewing Happiness.  We always enjoy reading your answers, it makes us feel a bit closer to you and they all were certainly creative and unique, I know I personally would want to read any one of your books! And our winner is…Stacey B!

My book would be about craft gatherings – friends, food and a craft project.

Stacey, please email us with your address and we will have our friends at Sasquatch send your winning copy over!  Congrats!